If There is Suffering, Use It As An Opportunity to Inquire - 8th August 2016

I will be at peace and everything is fine and totally relaxed and happy and then suddenly I get a call from my home and then the whole world is upside down. Then there is only pain, crying, all sorts of things come up. Is this also part of the Maya which is happening? Because what has happened, I was happy till the morning and my father, he was telling me his story, what is going on at home. I do not believe it, but belief or not, it is happening, you know? So is it also part of the Maya thing? You know, sometimes if it doesn't work in that way, maybe it can distract with this, something like that.

Yes. If there is suffering, then there is belief in the mind. So instead of feeling bad or guilty about that, what we can do is to inquire into the identity which still remains strong, you see? Because belief goes only to that which we are identified with, and that which you are identified with is an identity. So, instead of looking at it as something bad which happens to you, use it as an opportunity to inquire, you see? So when you say that okay, something when my dad says or something when my family says, then inquire into that identity of who is the daughter? Who is the one that really wants a particular way for the family to be?

I know something is still wanting them to be happy, but is that wrong? To have a wish that your family should be happy, your parents, and you know? Is that something wrong, Father?

And this is a good question now. So what you can do is bless them to be happy, but you look at the outcome as all up to the Satguru or all up to God, whatever you have faith in, you can see. You see, one is that because we are tied to the outcome of what we want, only then we suffer. Which child will not want their parents to be happy? Nothing wrong with that, you see? But when we are attached to 'it must be' because 'I think they must be happy,' you see, that causes suffering for us. So we can bless them, we can pray for their happiness, nothing wrong. Although more and more you will find it more and more difficult to pray for specific things. You find that everything, you know, is your Master's grace anyway. So even what arises in a specific way—but even if it arises in a specific way—a prayer is not a business deal. A prayer is a petition, yeah.