About Sex - 5 Jan 2016

So, because you brought up the topic, I want to speak about sex also for a little bit, because this is one topic which is like a minefield. It's a minefield, actually, because it becomes like the mind cannot leave it to be natural. You cannot just leave it to be natural. It has to attach either shame to it or specialness to it. And I've said this before, so like this about sex, it's always a judgment, a conclusion, and it's either shameful or special.

I have said like this, that if you look at the world also, this phenomenal world, you will see that there are various cultures in which it is just completely said to be shameful, and the other cultures which are just culturally all about sex, like the specialness comes about this. You'll find both of these cultures are predominant in this world, but you hardly find some culture which is neutral about it. Yeah? So as you come to this, let's be neutral about it. Like we are neutral about hunger. Many have related issues also, but most of us are neutral about it. See? Like we are neutral about hunger, we'll be neutral about sex. It's just a normal part of functioning. Nothing shameful or special.

And I just believe that because, you know, this is... hunger is a personal desire and it's something which... and it is something which is felt in the body ultimately. But the fact is that this is something which I see, and it could be totally wrong and that's why I'm putting it out there: sexual energy generally requires expression through either a partner or some sort of demonstration. I mean, there is some demonstration that it requires for itself to be completed. And the fact that you put it out there, and when the demonstration is there, it is being judged by the partner or it is being judged by a person that you probably put it out to ultimately. So it is... so that's what I'm asking. It creates that identity and creates that judgment and creates that shame and puts the gratification, all of it, out there. So I understand what you say, but that's how it's really...

Oh, it can... it can leave it, though. This is what the mind does for everything, but about sex, it does it even full throttle, you see? So it takes on something which is very natural. It's not something that was invented by this generation, you see? It takes on something which has been completely around for as long as the world has been around, you see? And it sets up all kinds of rituals around it. Like you said, it's about demonstrating and performance, all these kind of weird things around it, and then builds all kinds of anxieties about it. You know, it's the same. You just... just take something that is so basic and natural at the core, and then with so many layers of confusion on top of it and so many layers of identity on top of it, that it can just be... just be overriding. It can be something which occupies a lot of time and energy for many people.

But as you are losing all of the layers of identity about it, all the layers of doership about it, can we find that this, like everything else, functions in its own natural way?