Where is this husband?

Because that creates a dichotomy and it will create an inner struggle because inwardly we are experiencing a sense of something because of what the wife is doing. And outwardly we are feeling that over time of the free I am awareness of something like this. So, instead of that what we must do is just when something seems to bother us then we look at that and say okay why am I upset with what this appearance of woman is saying. Why that must be the reason if she was not my wife then it will not bother me because it is a random stranger on the street saying something then it doesn't bother me why does it bother her here because I am the husband. So, we must then look at this husband and say where is this husband is the party the husband who is the husband. And we must really inquire it can sound funny like this over you know this is kindergarten stuff or something like that actually we must look and say okay where is the husband.