Life Has No Obliga#on to Make Sense to You

The Truth does not have to live up to any standards that you have for it. Somebody said — some scientist, was it Einstein or somebody else? — “The Universe has no obligation to make sense to me”. It is a very beautiful statement really, because we can say Life or Universe. Life has no obligation to make sense to you. And all our struggle is this. What is going on? What’s going on? Why? Why? Why? And we come with some nonsense answers or we hear some nonsense, and that seems to put some conceptual balm temporarily — Aah! This is why. And then, even that answer is shattered when we go back to: But why? What’s going on! And this is why it’s mostly ‘Why me? Why me?’ But then we remember that Life has no obligation to make sense to you. In fact, any sense that you’re making of it is too limited. It is too constricting for Life to show you that it is not so small, that it has to conform to your idea of what God is. And this is true, actually, for most masters also. If you have some idea that my master should be this way, like this, like this, very soon that idea becomes shown. He doesn’t have to dance to your notions of who he is or she is. We have constricted our lives so much in this dance of projections. Look at all your relationships. We say: Oh! I got attracted to this one because he or she is so different from me, opposite. And then once the relationship is on, we start building the box. Can you become a little more like this? Can you become a little more like that? So, we start looking at it through the lens of our projection. We want our partner to fit into that, and for both sides this happens. When we get into this sort of horrible dance of projections just like ‘why can’t you be like this, why can’t you be like that, you should give me the freedom to be exactly who I want to be but you have to be like that.’ [Chuckles] And even with this ‘You should give me freedom for me to be whomever I want to be’, you are not giving that freedom to that one to be how exactly they are. Not giving you the freedom should be their freedom. It became too complex [chuckles]. [Laughter in the Sangha] You said you should give me that freedom to be exactly who I want to be, but then you are depriving them of the freedom to not like the way you are in the freedom, to not be who you are. That’s all a mess actually. [Laughter in the Sangha] It is like this, like this. We do the same thing in the Guru-disciple relationship. It hardly takes one moment after you call someone your Guru before your mind starts telling you how he should be or she should be. He should be this way, he should be that way, he should not be this way, he should not be that way. So, the mind is still wanting to take a Guru position in the sense that I can tell this one also whom we are calling with reverence ‘Guru’, but then I will judge you based on what I think. So, what I was saying the other day was that you should give that phase some time. Give it six months, if you want, give it one year, if you want. Do full due diligence. Make all your benchmarks and projections. Say: This is how he should be, he should not be, all of this. And if somebody fits into that box, and you have done your due diligence now, then throw away your box after some time. Because if you keep having this sort of judging nature, busy and projecting nature, then you will do exactly what we do for all relationships. When we try and fit it to conform to your box of how this relationship should be, then how is that? And many times masters can fall into this trouble also. That my disciple should only be like this. It is like saying the children who are born should only come out like this, when they come out of the womb they should be this way or that way. Who takes these things? So, this, if it depends like relationships in that way, then it can be messy for both sides. So, empty yourself of these things, this dance of projections. Life is just what it is. I think it was Adya (Sri Adyashanti) or somebody whom I heard say this: Freedom is not about getting freedom, but it is about giving freedom.