Zen farmer: 'that's what I'm doing already'

I want this relationship because I will be happy, it is like the old Zen story of these two farmers, one of them is just being very lazy and sitting around. I am not realizing that I have gotten to a lot of trouble needlessly because it sounds like I am advising laziness. One of them is just sitting around and the other one comes and says why are you just sitting why don't you go work in your field? So he says okay so then what will happen? If you work in your field you will be able to sell your crops then you can build a bigger house. So then what will happen is that if you have a bigger house then you can get married, you can have children, you can have a beautiful family life and what will happen and he says that oh then you can expand, you can hire people to work for you, you can get more and more money and then what will happen is you know where the story is going. So ultimately he says then you can just sit and be happy, he says but that is what I am doing already.