If you are the witnessing, how come you seem to be hurt by things that come and go?

Now, if this is so, then how come you seem to be affected by things that come and go by perceptions, you see, I am the witnessing and I am untouched and hurt by all of this, whatever it might play out and yet, in our life, it seems to be something different, it seems to be hurt, affected, concerned, it seems to be, it seems to be Okay, before we actually even go there, do this witnessing, does it find any idea of sub-liteness between itself and water thicknesses, are there two there a sense of twoness like, I am the witness and this is not, is it like that,