Special Relationships
Special relationships create suffering through identification and character, but as we cultivate emptiness and trust intuition, all relationships are resolved in the unborn.
This special relationship type thing is obviously a big, big, big aspect of suffering in the human condition and it’s just not between men with men it’s also with women and whatever combinations there are possible. So…yes it is something that is deeply ingrained into our identity and I say this often that many times my wife and I have this conversation that…the openness and emptiness seems to come last in these special relationships, seems to come last in these special relationships. So it’s very much a part of the human condition but…as we are getting more and more open, getting more and more empty, there is bound to be more and more spaciousness even in these special relationships, so…
Okay, yeah ....so far I came up with the conclusion is just... yeah I mean definitely I notice when I am identifying, usually it comes up with identification more often when I am with another person, especially women, because I jump into character, you know.
Yeah.
Where it is coming from, just follow this character, you know. Yeah, even though it seems as not bad, it's just character, still but it actually tires me a little bit. So yeah but I know it also will go away because it is being very visible you know and less character there is I feel maybe it’s going to be less demanding as well you know how things should go…and yeah…
So master Bankai said ‘all things are perfectly resolved in the unborn.’ He did not say ‘all things except relationships.’ [Sangha, Ananta Smiles]
Yeah, I feel that is why it comes quite often and the feeling ‘wow, everything was great until somebody comes into my life’ and you know it feels you should just be alone because it feels so great but there are little desires which are ingrained, you know, like to have children … ‘okay, just have to follow this because it’s much easier than push them away. Yeah, so and then this extra let’s say, issues come up with that, you know.
One tip I have for you and everyone is that this Intuitive-space, let’s call it that, it’s not really space but let’s call it that for a moment, that Intuitive-space can be trusted to run this worldly life as well as to help us recognize our own Source. So Consciousness is recognizing what Consciousness itself is made up of and where it comes from intuitively. And intuitively whatever you need is available to you even in the wordily expression, in the wordily manifest form of Consciousness. So why I am saying that is because many times we feel that ‘no, no for this situation I have to use my mind, I just have to use my mind.’ but your Intuition will be able to guide you.
Key Teachings
- Special relationships are a major source of suffering because they involve deep identification and character-playing, which obscures openness and emptiness
- All things, including relationships, are perfectly resolved in the unborn - nothing is excepted from this truth
- The Intuitive-space can be trusted to guide both worldly life and spiritual recognition, rather than relying solely on the mind
From: May You Find That Which Is Beyond the World – Blessed Christmas - 25th December 2019